Why You Need a Positive Attitude and How to Gain It
By Remez Sasson
Why you need a positive attitude, and what benefits it will bring into your life?
Adopting a positive attitude as a way of life will help you cope more easily with your daily affairs of life, and would bring constructive changes into your life. A positive attitude will make you an optimist, and help you avoid worries and negative thoughts.
Developing this attitude, would make you a happier person, who sees the bright side of life and expects the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing.
What Is a Positive Attitude?
Here are a few definitions that attempt to describe what is a positive attitude, and how it manifests.
- It is a mental state that expects the best to happen. It is actually, positive thinking, the habit of believing that things would turn well and not allowing negative thoughts and doubts to disturb this belief.
- It is constructive thinking - You think about solutions and believe that you can find them. It means being active about solving problems. It is not enough just to believe that things will turn out okay. You also need to be actively thinking about constructive solutions and carrying them out.
- It is creative thinking - Looking at life and situations with a broader vision and finding creative solutions. With a positive attitude, you are not afraid to look for new ways of doing things. This makes you unique and can help you do things in a better way than others.
- Optimism - This is one of its main characteristics. It means hope and expecting situations to improve and plans to turn out well.
- Motivation - This is the energy and zest to do things and accomplish goals. When motivation is present you are keen on doing, spending energy and time on work, studies, or accomplishing a goal. When you are sure of yourself, believe in your abilities and do not allow anything to discourage you, you become motivated.
- Happiness - A person with a positive attitude is usually happy, and content.
A positive frame of mind can help you in many ways and in many situations. It will help you stay calm in difficult situations, not to lose hope, and to continue whatever you are doing, despite difficulties or failure. There are various traits of character and habits associated with the possession of a positive attitude, as mentioned below. if you do not posses them yet, now is the time to build them.
How Do You know that You Have Positive Attitude?
Find out whether you possess the following habits:
- Do you expect a successful outcome of your actions?
- Do you inspire and encourage yourself and other people?
- Not giving up and not feeling down when meeting obstacles and encountering problems.
- You look at failure and problems as blessings in disguise. You learn from them, so you do not repeat them.
- You believe in yourself and in your abilities and skills.
- Do you feel that you possess enough self-esteem and self-confidence to handle confidently the affairs of your daily life?
- One of the main features of a positive frame of mind is the ability to stay immune to negative thoughts, negative comments, negative people and discouragement, and not allow them affect your state of mind.
- Do you look for solutions, instead of dwelling on problems?
- With this state of mind, you become curious and open-minded, and therefore, are able to recognize opportunities and dare to explore them.
A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but it also affects your environment and the people around you.
If this attitude is strong enough, it becomes contagious. It's as if you radiate light around you.
This one of the reasons why creative visualization is essential for success, happiness and contentment.
The Benefits of a Positive Attitude:
I have already mentioned many of the benefits of adopting a positive attitude and the importance of developing it. However, a little repetition would make things even clearer.
- It helps you achieve goals and attain success.
- It can bring more joy into your life.
- It makes you a pleasant person to be with, and makes it easier to be liked and gain friends.
- It produces more energy, enthusiasm, interest, and even curiosity, making life more interesting.
- Positive attitude increases your confidence in your abilities, and brings hope and expectation of a brighter future.
- It enhances your motivation when carrying out tasks and working on goals, and you are also able to inspire and motivate others.
- Obstacles and difficulties do not spoil your happiness and optimism. You do not focus on them, you focus on solutions.
- One's attitude is contagious and affects other people. When it is good and pleasant, people will like you and want your company.
- When you feel good and happy, and expect good things to happen, life smiles at you.
Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve success.
Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.
If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is now the time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior, and start leading a happy life with optimism, energy and zest. If you tried to do so in the past and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough and should try again.
If your mind whispers to you that you cannot change, do not listen to it. Change will not happen overnight, but with a little perseverance it will happen.
Simple Tips for Developing a Positive Attitude:
- Choose to be happy. Yes, it is a matter of choice. When negative thoughts enter your mind, just refuse to look at them and think them. Do your best to substitute them with happy thoughts.
- Look at the bright side of life. It's a matter of choice and repeated attempts. No matter how tough a situation is, there is always some good in it, some insight and lessons to learn.
- Choose to be optimistic. Choose to believe that things would change for the better.
- Find reasons to smile more often. You can find such reasons, if you look around you. There are funny events, funny incidents, pleasant events and small daily accomplishments. All of them are reasons for a smile.
- Have faith in yourself, and believe that the Universe can help you. A strong belief in yourself and in your ability to cope with every situation, fosters a positive attitude in you.
- Associate yourself with happy people, since happiness is contagious.
- Read inspiring stories about inspiring, happy or successful people. Do not envy them or be jealous of them. Just learn from their stories, and let them inspire and motivate you to do similar things.
- Read inspiring quotes. You can find such quotes on the Internet and at our quotes directory. I suggest you read a few in the morning, before going to work, and at night, before you go to sleep.
- Repeat affirmations to inspire and motivate you.
- Visualize only what you want to happen in your life, and avoid thinking and visualizing what you do not want.
- Learn to develop a focused mind and master your thoughts. When you can focus, you can direct your attention more easily to thoughts that you choose, and avoid negative thoughts.
Following even only one of the above suggestions, will bring more happiness and joy into your life.
What Is Positive Thinking and Why You Need It
Positive Attitude Is a State of Mind
Do you think you’re a positive person? A positive mental attitude can improve your health, enhance your relationships, increase your chances of success, and add years to your life.
The fact is, most people are bombarded by negativity each day. Sure, it’s easy to cast blame by saying you’re surrounded by negative people. The reality: A lot of the negativity is self-inflicted…influenced by the company you keep and your personal perspective on life’s realities.
Take a minute…
Think how often in the day you’re besieged by people who argue over money, worry about the possibility of failure, complain about someone’s actions, criticize mistakes, mistrust someone’s intentions, blame others to avoid condemnation, envy someone for personal achievements, and gossip about trivial garbage. (No wonder we’re exhausted at the end of the day.)
Let’s take a closer look at the negativity that we face every day…
Arguments.Many arguments are the result of poor communication, the lack of open mindedness, or the clash of opposing values and principles. People also argue to force their viewpoint on others or just to let off steam.
Worry. Others worry about losing control. They desire certainty in an uncertain world. These people feel that worrying is productive, even though they’ll be the first to tell you that they’re driving themselves crazy because they can’t get these thoughts out of their head.
Fear. Some people fear the unknown. Just as pollution damages the environment, fear is toxic to individuals and companies. Fear encourages people to withdraw, keep information close to their vest, hide mistakes, and refuse to take risks. Whether their fear is caused by something real or imagined, perception is reality.
Blame. Criticizing and insulting people in front of their peers, challenging their competence, demanding impossible deadlines, and cutting them out of the information loop are tactics that create negativity. Furthermore, when something goes wrong, people often look to others to cast blame. The result is that everyone watches out for #1 — themselves.
Complaints. The reason many people complain all the time is not necessarily because they’re unhappy with their lives or circumstances. The fact is, compulsive complainers don’t even realize that they’re complaining. Perpetual complainers grumble out of boredom or a desire to turn an awkward moment of silence into a conversation starter. Or sometimes, people complain just because it makes them feel better to vent.
Criticism. There’s a difference between constructive feedback and biting criticism. While constructive feedback is offered with good intent, constant and biting criticism can lead to stress, anxiety, and reduced self-esteem.
Mistrust. How much time is wasted and how much ill will created as a result of mistrust? People spend endless hours second-guessing intent, peering over shoulders, and creating elaborate approval processes to check and recheck.
Jealousy. When is enough, enough? We live in a society where many people aren’t satisfied with their own accomplishments. If our neighbor buys a new toy, if our colleague receives a promotion, or if the TV celebrity flaunts a new design, we want it too. The problem is, after the excitement wears off, the finish line moves as well. Whether it’s affordable, deserved, or needed never comes into question.
Gossip (our national pastime). People gossip to fit into a group, fill a void in conversation, prove that they’re in the know, take revenge on a person, put someone in their place, or merely to gain attention. Gossip is a disease spread mouth to mouth. It’s one of those distractions that keep us from focusing on our own lives.
It Pays to Be Positive
There’s a direct correlation between a positive attitude and better relationships, superior health, and greater success.
A positive attitude can boost your energy, heighten your inner strength, inspire others, and garner the fortitude to meet difficult challenges. According to research from the Mayo Clinic, positive thinking can increase your life span, decrease depression, reduce levels of distress, provide greater resistance to the common cold, offer better psychological and physical well-being, reduce the risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and enable you to cope better during hardships and times of stress.
Here are several ways to adopt a positive mental attitude:
Surround yourself with positive people. Spend time with people who are positive, supportive, and who energize you. Remember, if you get too close to a drowning victim, he may take you down with him. Pick a positive person instead.
Be positive yourself.If you don’t want to be surrounded by negative people, what makes you think others do? Learn to master your own thoughts. For example:
When you visualize a goal, it makes you more likely to take the actions necessary to reach it. Visualize yourself winning the race, getting the promotion, accepting the award, or landing the new account.
Control your negative thinking. This can be accomplished in the following ways:
See the glass as half full rather than half empty.
Anticipate the best outcome.
Stay the middle ground. Don’t view everything in extremes — as either fantastic or a catastrophe. This will help you reduce your highs and lows.
Mistakes happen. Negative people blame themselves for every bad occurrence whether it was their fault or not. Don’t let this be you.
Consciously resist negative thinking. Be cognizant of and mentally avoid negative thinking. This will help you modify your behavior.
Be nice to yourself. Unfortunately, some people say the meanest things to themselves. If you criticize yourself long enough, you’ll start to believe it. This negativity can drag you down over time. It may be time to fire the critic and hire the advocate.
Set realistic, achievable goals. There’s nothing wrong with setting a high bar — unless you beat yourself up for not achieving your goals. The key is to build confidence by setting realistic goals and by hitting a lot of singles rather than swinging for the fences.
Keep it in perspective. Life is all about prioritizing the things that matter most in your life and focusing your efforts in these areas. This means that trivial things that go wrong every day shouldn’t get you down. Learn to address or ignore small issues and move on. It’s time to sweat the big stuff.
Turn challenges into opportunities. Instead of letting challenges overwhelm you, turn them into opportunities. (Rather than hitting the wall, climb over it or go around.)
Count your blessings. Be grateful and give thanks for the special things in your life rather than taking them for granted. Some people do this by giving thanks around the dinner table, keeping a written journal, or posting one special item each day on Facebook. Remember, some of the greatest possessions in life aren’t material. Take every opportunity to make a wonderful new memory.
If you want to achieve happiness, better health, stronger relationships, and continued success, you may not have to look any further than the mirror. “The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.”* Do you see the glass half full or half empty? True happiness may depend on how you view the world and who you look to for inspiration. It pays to be positive.
*Author unknown. See http://anse.rs/iatZYn
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